What to Ask the Shadchan about HIM

Background Information

1. Age, height & build

2. Where does he live?

3. Where did he grow up?

4. What schools did he go to? (including high school, Yeshiva & any other post-high school education)

5. Is he currently learning/working/in school?

6. What is his longer-term plan? (for learning/working)

7. What kind of phone does he use & is his phone filtered?

8. Was he ever engaged?

9. To the best of your knowledge, is he a physically, emotionally, and mentally healthy person?

10. Has he had any physical, emotional, or mental health issues in the past?

Family

1. Parents’ names & occupations (including mother’s maiden name)

2. Parents’ backgrounds

3. Is the home a stable, healthy home?

4. Do you know of any health issues in his immediate family?

5. How many kids are in his family?

6. What number child is he?

7. Are his siblings generally healthy & stable?

8. Are any of his siblings married? If yes, to who?

References

Ask for the following references:

1. Friends (ideally 2)

2. Rebbi or Teacher

3. Family Rav

4. Family Friend

Other

1. Thank you for thinking of me! Can I also ask what about this boy made you think of me?