What to Ask the Shadchan about HIM
Before you begin, ask the shadchan the following questions. Keep in mind that not every question will apply & there may be other questions that you think of.
Background Information
Age, height & build
Where does he live?
Where did he grow up?
What schools did he go to? (including high school, Yeshiva & any other post-high school education)
Is he currently learning/working/in school?
What is his longer-term plan? (for learning/working)
What kind of phone does he use & is his phone filtered?
Was he ever engaged?
To the best of your knowledge, is he a physically, emotionally, and mentally healthy person?
Has he had any physical, emotional, or mental health issues in the past?
Family
Parents’ names & occupations (including mother’s maiden name)
Parents’ backgrounds
Is the home a stable, healthy home?
Do you know of any health issues in his immediate family?
How many kids are in his family?
What number child is he?
Are his siblings generally healthy & stable?
Are any of his siblings married? If yes, to who?
References
Ask for the following references:
Friends (ideally 2)
Rebbi or Teacher
Family Rav
Family Friend
Other
Thank you for thinking of me! Can I also ask what about this boy made you think of me?