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What to Ask the Shadchan about HER

Before you begin, ask the shadchan the following questions. Keep in mind that not every question will apply & there may be other questions that you think of.

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Background Information


  1. Age, height & build

  2. Where does she live?

  3. Where did she grow up?

  4. What schools did she go to? (including high school, seminary & any other post-high school education)

  5. Is she currently working/in school?

  6. Does she plan to continue working for the foreseeable future?

  7. What kind of phone does she use?

  8. Is her phone filtered?

  9. How does she plan to cover her hair?

  10. Was she ever engaged?

  11. To the best of your knowledge, is she a physically, emotionally, and mentally healthy person?

  12. Has she had any physical, emotional, or mental health issues in the past?


Family


  1. Parents’ names & occupations (including mother’s maiden name)

  2. Parents’ backgrounds

  3. Is the home a stable, healthy home?

  4. Do you know of any health issues in her immediate family?

  5. How many kids are in her family?

  6. What number child is she?

  7. Are her siblings generally healthy & stable?

  8. Are any of her siblings married? If yes, to who?


References


    Ask for the following references:

  1. Friends (ideally 2)

  2. Teacher

  3. Family Rav

  4. Family Friend


Other


  1. Thank you for thinking of me! Can I also ask what about this girl made you think of me?

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